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I am back again...

2009-08-31T14:56:00.002-04:00

It has been almost one year since I have posted anything and I feel rejuvenated after this summer and on the eve of a new school year. I also have a few new ideas floating around in my brain to blog about. Stay tuned.

Now McCain Is Going to Stomp His Foot and Pout

2008-09-02T11:09:00.000-04:00

McCain is angry that the media is actually trying to hold him and his running mate accountable for their actions. Imagine that!

McCain Turns Sour on His Onetime Media `Base' as Election Nears
Heidi
Przybyla Tue Sep 2, 12:01 AM ET

Sept. 2 (Bloomberg) -- The longtime love affair between John McCain and
what he once called his ``base'' -- the national news media -- is on the rocks.
McCain's campaign manager, Steve Schmidt, yesterday lashed out at what he
deemed ``offensive'' and ``demeaning'' coverage and questions from reporters
after McCain's running mate, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin, confirmed her
17-year-old daughter is pregnant.
``It used to be that a lot of those smears
and the crap on the Internet stayed out of the newsrooms of serious
journalists,'' Schmidt said at the Republican National Convention in St. Paul,
Minnesota.
Schmidt's criticism is the latest example in the unraveling of
what was once a fond relationship between the presumptive Republican
presidential nominee and the media. Starting in the 2000 Republican primaries,
the Arizona senator became a media sensation by chatting up the press in the
back of his ``Straight Talk Express'' campaign bus. The national press corps
freely mingled with McCain for hours on the bus, with no topic off limits.
More recently, though, McCain, 72, has accused news organizations such as
the New York Times, Time magazine and the NBC network of being unfair to him.
The campaign even considered pulling out of one of the three presidential
debates because it would be moderated by Tom Brokaw, a former NBC News
anchorman.
`Media Scrutiny'
``McCain's both been close to and now, to
some extent, the object of media scrutiny that he's never had before,'' said
Senator John Cornyn, a Texas Republican.
In one way, the more strained
relationship may be an asset for McCain by broadening his appeal to conservative
Republicans who believe the media has a liberal bias.
``There are a lot of
people who don't like the press anymore and think they're out of control;
attacking the messenger isn't a terrible political strategy,'' said Darrell
West, a scholar at the Brookings Institution in Washington who has written
several books on the mass media.
Yet, it may also have pitfalls. ``You still
need the press to get your message out and if you have an antagonistic
relationship it can blow up in your face,'' West said.
`Straight Talk'
As the relationship has deteriorated, McCain has stopped hosting his
once-famous ``straight talk'' get-togethers on his campaign plane. He also has
abandoned regular press conferences.
Instead, he stops occasionally to read
short written statements in front of cameras, like he did Aug. 31 in Jackson,
Mississippi; then walks away from questions shouted by reporters.
His
campaign plane is custom configured with a lounge area designed for hosting
question-and-answer sessions with the press. McCain inaugurated the lounge on
one of the plane's first flights and hasn't used it since.
Invitations for
the press to visit the Straight Talk Express also have grown scarce. Local
reporters are allowed the occasional visit, though journalists traveling with
McCain no longer are invited to drop in. He hasn't held a news conference since
Aug. 13.
Some of the campaign's new approach may coincide with the bigger
role taken by Schmidt, who was close to Karl Rove, a former campaign manager and
White House aide to President George W. Bush, known for keeping a tight grip on
press access to his boss.
Public Rifts
There have also been a series of
public rifts between the campaign and the media. On July 31, McCain campaign
manager Rick Davis sparred with MSNBC
anchor Andrea Mitchell in an exchange about a McCain campaign ad portraying
Democratic presidential candidate Barack Obama as a celebrity.
``I'm happy
to talk about more substantive issues the next time I come on your program,''
Davis said, capping the testy interview.
On July 22, the McCain camp
assailed the media in an Internet advertisement and an e-mail to supporters.
``It's pretty obvious the media has a bizarre fascination with Barack Obama,
some may even say it's a love affair,'' McCain's campaign said in the e-mail.
``The media is in love with Barack Obama. If it wasn't so serious, it would be
funny.''
On Aug. 17, Davis sent a letter to NBC News President Steve Capus
saying the network was ``abandoning non-partisan coverage of the presidential
race.'' Davis said New York-based NBC had made ``unsubstantiated, partisan
claims'' designed ``to undercut John McCain.''
Capus said he spoke with the
McCain campaign after he received the letter and ``there is no issue in terms of
a broader problem.'' NBC is owned by Fairfield, Connecticut-based General
Electric Co.
Combative Stance
McCain also took a combative stance in an
Aug. 27 interview with Time reporters James Carney and Michael Scherer, refusing
to answer a question about his definition of honor.
``Read it in my books,''
McCain said. ``I'm not going to define it.'' That exchange set the tone for the
rest of the interview: McCain answered a question about his opinion on
premarital sex by saying, ``I don't have any response to that type of
question.''
He added, ``Write what you want.''
For Related News: News on
the election: STNI ELEC2008 News on McCain: BIO JOHN S MCCAIN
News on the Republican Convention: STNI RNC

Sarah Palin, The Irony of It All

2008-09-02T08:02:00.002-04:00

For a myriad of reasons Sarah Palin is an insulting choice for the GOP as Vice-President. She is a candidate that McCain choice, I believe solely based on her gender, which is reverse sexism. He must have believed that Hilary's supporters wouldn't care what woman they voted for as long as it was a human being with a uterus. In my opinion that is like voting for someone solely based on the fact that they have a penis.

McCain could not have picked a more anti-woman candidate on all fronts, staunchly pro-life, no opinion on equal pay for equal work, healthcare, or any other issue that directly effects half the population.
With all that being said it was released today that Palin's 17-year-old daughter, Bristol, is pregnant.

In the news release, the McCain campaign made sure to state that:
Bristol Palin made the decision on her own to keep the baby, McCain aides said.

From Feministing.com:

While it's obvious why they made this statement to assure the public
that Bristol was not coerced into keeping the baby (after all, she does have a
parent who is a staunch opponent of the right to choose and is currently on the
Republican presidential ticket), as my significant other pointed out, there's
some serious hypocrisy at play here. I mean, John McCain and Sarah Palin don't
believe women have a right to choose. It's absolutely absurd for the campaign to
emphasize the fact that Bristol "made this decision," and then push for policies
that take away that choice.
In reality, Bristol's actual "choice" was
probably not whether to terminate the pregnancy or carry it to term, but whether
raise the child herself or put it up for adoption.
But the reason that the McCain campaign chose to emphasize Bristol's agency in this decision was to reassure the public that this pregnancy is not coercive. They know the public wants to feel secure in the knowledge that it was Bristol's choice to keep the pregnancy. And coming from the McCain campaign, which opposes a woman's right to choose, that statement is disgusting. As Kate Sheppard wrote in In These Times recently, during the 2000 primary McCain said that if his daughter got pregnant it would be a "family decision":

"The final decision would be made by Meghan with our advice and counsel," McCain said, referring to himself and his wife, Cindy. When reporters suggested that this view made him, in fact, pro-choice, McCain became irritated. "I don't think it is the pro-choice position to say that my daughter and my wife and I will discuss something that is a family matter that we have to decide."
In other words: My family and my daughter deserve a choice, but no other woman can be trusted with this decision. This fits nicely with the narrative on both Palin's decision to carry her Down's syndrome child to term and her daughter's decision to carry her own pregnancy to term. Their decisions are seen by the antichoice Republican base as affirmation that Palin shares their values. But the underlying message that each woman had a choice is a validation of pro-choice values.

That encapslated it all....

Chasity Clubs...no seriously at big deal Ivy League Schools

2008-03-30T19:40:00.009-04:00

This article appeared in the New York Times and it was sent to me by a friend with the email body reading, "Thought you'd find this article interesting too. It covers your three favorite topics - feminism, sexuality, and Ivy League schools."

After reading and digesting what was being written (read: after getting severely pissed off) I have some reactions and highlights of this piece.

A brief summary of this article is about a few young Ivy Leaguers who believe in abstinence only clubs on their campuses. Particularly, the article focuses on a woman named Jane Fredell. Now, I am all for people having their own opinions and being able to voice their opinions in a respectful way. However, the nature of what I do day in and day out is to inform people about violence in our culture and how that needs to change. I feel that the basis for this is misogyny.

Now when we speak about misogyny organized religion, particularly Catholicism is right up there with the biggest offenders. I have made peace with this personally being raised Catholic and having a life changing experience in college reading Simone De Beauvoir and become an advantageous feminist. With that being said, I realize there is a lack of dialogue between women who define themselves as feminist, in a mainstream way, not those the media dubs, "man hating feminazis." This article attempts to link these two worlds. Key word: ATTEMPTS.

The article starts out simply describing the reasons that these people started their abstinence only clubs in the ivory towers. Fine. Followed by the usual religious rhetoric that early sexual activity is "strongly associated with all manners of terrible outcome." Ok, religious organizations have been saying this forever.

The piece of the article that put me over the edge was:

She said she read in Mill that women are subordinated in relationships as a result of “socially constructed norms.” If men are commonly more promiscuous than women, it is only because the culture allows it, she said. Fredell was here to turn society around. “It’s extremely countercultural,” she said, for a woman to assert control over her own body. It is, in fact, a feminist notion. Conventional feminism, she explained, teaches that control of your body means the freedom to have sex without consequences — sex like a man. “I am an unconventional feminist,” Fredell said, in the sense that she asserts control by choosing not to have sex — by telling men, no, absolutely not.

CONVENTIONAL FEMINISM. I consider myself to be feminist, radical and liberal and third wave. No where in any feminist writings, first, second or third does it define control of one's body to have sex like a man! What!!! I have read book upon books of feminist theory and I am hard pressed to think of any author, other than maybe Carrie Bradshaw (a fictional sex columnist) writing about women empowering themselves in a sexual way by having sex like a man. AND by the way, what does that even mean?? It is degrading to men to say that they have mechanical and meaningless sex. The fact that this woman defines herself as a feminist offends me. She is as far from the type of feminist that I AM that you can get. I also believe that if asked other women who self define as feminists would say that they are empowered sexually to make safe choices. CHOICES that is what this is all about.

The author continues with the verbal and intellectual sparring Fredell had with another student who writes a blog called Sex and the Ivy. The other part of the article worth mentioning is that Fredell and her predecessors talk about how young women are pressured into sex because of the media and college administrators:

A sex-saturated popular culture creates certain expectations, she argues. “The key thing to remember,” Shalit wrote me recently in an e-mail message, “is that many young people involved in sexual activity feel pressured into it.” Many are uncomfortable with “the hookup scene,” she continued, and “college abstinence programs are growing out of this awareness that disconnected sex is not as pleasurable as the media (and sometimes college administrators) have led us to believe.”

Where is the college that the president and administration are pressuring students to have sex? I think that there is a disconnect between these ivory tower abstience cheerleaders and reality. The CDC just released a study that stated:

Chicago (March 11, 2008) – A CDC study released today estimates that one in four (26 percent) young women between the ages of 14 and 19 in the United States – or 3.2 million teenage girls – is infected with at least one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases (human papillomavirus (HPV), chlamydia, herpes simplex virus, and trichomoniasis). The study, presented today at the 2008 National STD Prevention Conference, is the first to examine the combined national prevalence of common STDs among adolescent women in the United States, and provides the clearest picture to date of the overall STD burden in adolescent women. http://www.cdc.gov/STDConference/2008/media/release-11march2008.htm

College administrators are saying, "Go out! Have sex with random strangers! It's awesome!" They are simply trying to keep everyone safe from becoming a statistic and getting an STD.

In closing, I feel that feminists are about choices, and if one chooses to not be sexually active, that's your prerogative. But if you are going to be a crusaders spouting inaccurate information DO NOT categorize yourself as a feminist!

Students of Virginity

By RANDALL PATTERSON

Published: March 30, 2008

There was a time when not having sex consumed a very small part of Janie Fredell’s life, but that, of course, was back in Colorado Springs. It seemed to Fredell that almost no one had sex in Colorado Springs. Her hometown was extremely conservative, and as a good Catholic girl, she was annoyed by all the fundamentalist Christians who would get in her face and demand, as she put it to me recently, “You have to think all of these things that we think.” They seemed not to know that she thought many of those things already. At her public high school, everyone, “literally everyone,” wore chastity rings, Fredell recalled, but she thought the practice ridiculous. Why was it necessary, she wondered, to signify you’re not doing something that nobody is doing?

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Leo Keliher admits that he struggles constantly against "physical lustful temptation."

And then Fredell arrived at Harvard. Sitting in a Cambridge restaurant not long ago, she told me that people back home called it “godless, liberal Harvard.” Some discouraged her from going, but Fredell went anyway, arriving in the fall of 2005. She wanted to study government, she said, maybe become a lawyer, and she knew that “people take you more seriously as a Harvard student.”

From the start, she told me, she was awed by the diversity of the place, by the intensity, by the constant buzz of ideas. There were so many different kinds of people at Harvard, most of them trying to change the world, and everyone trying to figure out what they thought of everyone else. “Harvard really puts pressure on you to define who you are,” Fredell said, and she loved everything about Harvard, except the sex.

Sex, as she put it, was not even “anything I’d ever thought about” when, as a freshman, she was educated in safe-sex practices. What she was told was the sort of thing found in a Harvard pamphlet called “Empowering You”: “put the condom on before the penis touches the vagina, mouth, or anus. . . . Use a new condom if you want to have sex again or if you want to have a different type of sex.”

Fredell began to understand she was in “a culture that says sex is totally O.K.” When a new boyfriend came to her, expressing desire, she managed to “stick to my guns,” she said, but there were “uncouth and socially inept” men, as she considered them, all around, and observing the rituals of her new classmates, Fredell couldn’t help being alarmed. “The hookup culture is so absolutely all-encompassing,” she said. “It’s shocking! It’s everywhere!”

She did nothing about it until her sophomore year. Then she began to read in The Harvard Crimson, the student newspaper, about a new student group on campus — a band of celibates, men and women, calling themselves True Love Revolution. They were pushing, for reasons entirely secular, the cause of premarital sexual abstinence, and Fredell, by this time, was utterly committed to abstinence. She could hardly bear to see it ridiculed in The Crimson. An article about the group’s ice cream social appeared under the headline “Not Tonight, Honey, I Have a Brain Freeze.” A columnist who wrote about the group joked of getting “very, very aroused” just thinking about virgins and wondered if such people might be available for “dry humping.”

“It’s an odd thing to see one’s lifestyle essentially attacked in The Crimson,” Fredell said. She began to feel a need to stand up for her beliefs, and what she believed in more than anything at Harvard was the value of not having premarital sex. In an essay she wrote for The Crimson, she asserted that “virginity is extremely alluring,” though its “mysterious allure . . . is not rooted in an image of innocence and purity, but rather in the notion of strength.” As she told me later, “It takes a strong woman to be abstinent, and that’s the sort of woman I want to be.”

After the essay appeared a year ago, Fredell was immediately aware of a loss of privacy, of having entered “whatever it is, the public sphere.” As students began responding on The Crimson Web site, she understood that she had defined herself at Harvard. “Everything became very clear to me,” she recalled when we met. She would join True Love Revolution. “I realized it was bigger than me, more important.”

UNTIL RECENTLY, organized efforts at abstinence have been mainly a high-school thing. Christy Gardner, an assistant professor at Wheaton College who is writing a book about evangelical sexual-abstinence programs, said that high-school chastity clubs took off in the early 1990s as evangelical Christians got fed up first with music videos, condom distributions, teen pregnancy and then with President Clinton’s dalliances. It seemed to them that a hypersexualized culture was instructing young people to have sex, Gardner says, and they created the clubs to push from the other direction. Millions of teenagers have since pledged to remain sexually abstinent until marriage, mainly on the grounds that premarital sex is sin.

At the same time, Congress and the Bush administration have directed hundreds of millions of dollars toward abstinence-only education in the public middle schools and high schools — classes that have been roundly criticized for blurring the line between science and religion. A 2004 report issued by Representative Henry Waxman, a California Democrat, found that 11 of 13 abstinence curriculums that his government-reform committee examined were rife with scientific errors and false and misleading information about the risks of sexual activity. Many states are now rejecting federal financing for such classes, on evidence that they fail to limit sexual behavior or reduce teen pregnancy.

In a follow-up study to a 1995 national survey of close to 12,000 students in grades 7 through 12, two sociologists, Peter Bearman at Columbia University and Hannah Brückner at Yale, found that while those who took virginity pledges preserved their technical virginity about 18 months longer than teenagers who didn’t pledge, they were six times more likely to engage in oral sex than virgins who hadn’t taken a pledge. They were also much less likely to use condoms during their first sexual experience or to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Disease rates between those who pledged and those who didn’t were actually similar. The authors, who published their findings in 2005, concluded that the emphasis on premarital abstinence was insufficient to fend off disease and “collides with the realities of adolescents’ and young adults’ lives.”

Many college students today, however, grew up with abstinence classes and clubs in their communities, and so the movement has raised a generation of activists. Among prominent abstinence activists is Wendy Shalit, who wrote “Girls Gone Mild: Young Women Reclaim Self-Respect and Find It’s Not Bad to Be Good,” which came out last year. She says that talk of disease rates and the amount of sexual activity on campuses is beside the point. A sex-saturated popular culture creates certain expectations, she argues. “The key thing to remember,” Shalit wrote me recently in an e-mail message, “is that many young people involved in sexual activity feel pressured into it.” Many are uncomfortable with “the hookup scene,” she continued, and “college abstinence programs are growing out of this awareness that disconnected sex is not as pleasurable as the media (and sometimes college administrators) have led us to believe.” The awareness is especially acute in the highly politicized environment of the elite schools, where, according to Shalit, “there is just one lifestyle that doesn’t get recognition” — premarital abstinence.

The Ivy League’s abstinence clubs began emerging several years ago about the same time as student sex blogs, sex columns and, at Harvard and Yale, student sex magazines. Those involved, however, say that the most important catalyst was university-sponsored safe-sex education, which they saw as institutional encouragement of promiscuity. The founders of the Princeton club, the first to form in the Ivy League in 2005, wanted to offer an opposing view. Many were Catholic, but seeking credibility within the university at large, they decided not to present themselves as a religious organization and always to “shy away from arguments with religious premises,” says Kevin Joyce, a former president of the club. “Here at a university, we have to provide the intellectual basis” for abstinence, he told me. “Every position we take as a group can be confirmed by rational thought.”

Making a rational case against premarital sex was easier before reliable contraception. But to shore things up, the club has turned to Catholic thinkers like Elizabeth Anscombe, the philosopher and student of Ludwig Wittgenstein. Anscombe’s arguments against premarital sex are as impressive as they are difficult to summarize, and the students so admired her logic, they named their society after her. Robert George, a professor of jurisprudence at Princeton, is one of the Anscombe Society’s informal faculty advisers. Himself a Catholic thinker, George says that society members employ “philosophical-ethical arguments” to support their belief that promiscuity “deeply compromises human dignity,” and psychological and sociological rationale to justify the claim that casual sex leads to “personal unhappiness and social harm.” The students are some of Princeton’s most gifted, George says, and “even people who don’t accept their conclusions recognize that the arguments being advanced by the Anscombe students are serious and cannot be easily dismissed.”

The Anscombe Society at Princeton went on to embrace positions not just against premarital sex but also against homosexual sex and marriage. Founders have tried to spread its method to other schools, and students at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology were the first to follow with another Anscombe Society. Bill Jacobs, the president, says it’s a loosely organized group. “People tend to be pretty busy with homework,” he says.

The Harvard abstinence club came next, in 2006. “We wanted to take it in a completely different direction,” Justin Murray, one club founder, told me. Murray and other members of the Harvard-Radcliffe Catholic Student Association admired Princeton’s effort to fit into the “intellectual discourse of a top school” — but didn’t want to make people at Harvard “dig deep into the philosophical catacombs,” as he puts it, just to understand why they should keep their clothes on. Harvard students are more emotionally involved in their causes, he told me. They’re more about getting things done, “making people happier, better and making society more just.” Murray didn’t think Anscombe’s “excessively abstract” logic would appeal to his classmates; nor, he added, would the Anscombe Society’s position against gays. “We wanted to make abstinence look fun, interesting,” he said.

Murray and his girlfriend, Sarah Kinsella, decided that their club would focus on the issue “most immediately relevant” to people on campus — premarital sexual abstinence — and would try to persuade people toward it with arguments less philosophical than scientific. “Many people on our campus were deprived of information,” Murray told me, and so he says he went looking through peer-reviewed journals and government sources for research that supported the abstinence view.

“We found a huge body of scholarship that suggested conclusions that nobody on our campus was making,” he says. They posted the conclusions on their Web site — the belief that “ ‘safe sex’ is not safe”; that even the most effective methods of birth control can fail; that early sexual activity is strongly associated with all manner of terrible outcomes, from increased risk of depression to greater likelihood of marital infidelity, divorce and maternal poverty. Premarital abstinence, on the other hand, is held up by True Love Revolution as improving health, promoting better relationships and, best of all, enabling “better sex in your future marriage.”

Plenty of critics dispute at least some of these claims. Martha Kempner, a spokeswoman for the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, which promotes sex education, agrees that True Love Revolution performs a service in providing abstinent students a place to gather for support. “What is disturbing,” she says, “is that this club is using inaccurate information and distorted data to sell that message.” She strongly rejects suggestions that premarital sex leads to poverty, an inability to bond or to increased likelihood of divorce. “There’s no legitimate research that says premarital sex has all of these harmful consequences,” she says. “They’re completely baseless claims.”

A voluntary online survey showed that students at Harvard were less sexually active than undergraduates elsewhere, says Dr. David Rosenthal, director of University Health Services, which conducted the survey. But perceiving a sexualized culture, members of True Love Revolution went to war. The group did not require an abstinence pledge, nor concern itself with drawing specific boundaries. Its one stated purpose was to discourage premarital intercourse, but by declining to endorse gay marriage, the group left gays, just as Princeton did, with no option but to abstain forever. Since True Love Revolution did not condemn gay marriage, Murray hoped no one would feel “personally attacked.” “We just wanted it to be kind of humorous and lighthearted,” he said.

True Love Revolution was denounced, however, after its first big outreach effort, on Valentine’s Day 2007. Members had sent out cards to the women of the freshmen class that read: “Why wait? Because you’re worth it.” Some interpreted the card to mean that those who didn’t wait until marriage to have sex would somehow be worth less. One writer for The Crimson concluded that “by targeting women with their cards and didactic message, they perpetuate an age-old values system in which the worth of a young woman is measured by her virginity.”

Murray remembers that over the course of the year, True Love Revolution was also assailed as “ridiculous, bogus, probably judgmental, almost certainly backward and putting forth bad, irrational, pointless arguments that didn’t belong in a university culture.” It was a long year. As he and Kinsella left for law and medical school, they were “very, very, very happy,” he said, when Fredell took the reins.

By the time I met her in December, Janie Fredell had grown used to explaining to strange men why she won’t have sex. Only 21 years old, she had spoken with a number of reporters and been on CNN. “It’s such an incredible thing to have the power to influence people for the better,” she told me over her oatmeal in the grand dining hall of Eliot House, and “so much easier being affiliated with Harvard.”

On campus, True Love Revolution was still struggling to establish itself. It had a Facebook presence of some 200 presumed celibates but an active core of only about a dozen, most of them Catholics. They brought in abstinence speakers, and held small discussions on topics like “true love — do you think it exists?” For Valentine’s Day this year, members sent out the same abstinence message — “Why wait? Because you’re worth it” — but this time to the men of the freshman class as well as the women. People continued to accuse Fredell of being antifeminist and propagating gender stereotypes, but she was determined that True Love Revolution would go on “until the end of Harvard.” To bolster herself, she often thought of Gandhi and Nelson Mandela.

“People just don’t get it,” Fredell said. “Everyone thinks we’re trying to promote this idea of the meek little virgin female.” She said she was doing no such thing. “I care deeply for women’s rights,” she said. Fredell was studying not just religion but also gender politics — and was reading Pope John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body” alongside John Stuart Mill’s “Subjection of Women.” She had awakened to the wage gap, to forced sterilization and female genital mutilation — to the different ways that men have, she said, of controlling women. One of these was sexual. Fredell had seen it often in her own life — men pushing for sex, she said, just to “have something to say in the locker room,” women feeling pressured to have sex in order to maintain a relationship. The more she studied and learned, the more Fredell came to realize that women suffer from having premarital sex, “due to a cultural double standard,” she said, “which devalues women for their sexual pasts and glorifies men for theirs.”

She said she read in Mill that women are subordinated in relationships as a result of “socially constructed norms.” If men are commonly more promiscuous than women, it is only because the culture allows it, she said. Fredell was here to turn society around. “It’s extremely countercultural,” she said, for a woman to assert control over her own body. It is, in fact, a feminist notion. Conventional feminism, she explained, teaches that control of your body means the freedom to have sex without consequences — sex like a man. “I am an unconventional feminist,” Fredell said, in the sense that she asserts control by choosing not to have sex — by telling men, no, absolutely not.

While Fredell framed her own abstinence in a feminist perspective, she was careful to say that women were not the only ones to benefit. “It’s not all about protecting women,” she said. “It’s about protecting people.” To prove her point, she said the membership of True Love Revolution was equally divided between women and men.

One man who was committed to abstinence was her boyfriend. He wasn’t talking, but I had talked to Leo Keliher, the 20-year-old co-president of True Love Revolution, in another Cambridge restaurant.

Keliher was an earnest man in dark clothes, unwrinkled and untouched, with the face of a subdued boy. Quite openly, he explained that his father was sent to prison for child molestation and that Keliher’s mother later married an electrician who eventually left her for a woman 20 years younger. So it was not hard to understand Keliher’s point of view. “I just have a huge amount of frustration with guys,” he told me. “They need to know that so much hurt can come from the lack of respect for women.”

After the departure of his stepfather, Keliher said he began shoplifting and wasting his potential. Searching for an honorable role model for her son, Keliher’s mother enrolled him in a Christian youth group. That’s when the shoplifting abruptly ceased and he began focusing on his studies, he said, and learning how to “love women out of strength and not out of need.” By the time he got to Harvard on full financial aid, he had subverted an early plan for wealth and power into a calming dream of priesthood. The Catholic Student Association embraced him and Justin Murray took him aside and spoke to him of True Love Revolution. Thus Keliher was there, in the fall of 2006, for an early skirmish. By distributing fliers — “10 Reasons to Wait” — outside of a freshman safe-sex seminar, he instantly gained “a public image” for abstinence, he said, which has helped him to remain chaste ever since.

He proved a stalwart soldier of True Love Revolution that year, but at the end, Fredell was uncertain about working with him as co-president. It was important to her “that people perceive this message as secular,” she said, and Keliher was even “more hard-line Catholic” than she. Over time, though, even as he began considering the monastery, she could see that he was just as committed to the club’s secular appearance as he was to its mission.

The one great difference between them seemed to be in their experience of abstinence. Fredell was unaware of that gap. Whenever sexual urges struck, she told me, she was able to manage them by going on a long run and assumed that everyone should be able to do the same. “The biological drive can be overcome,” she said. “It’s not like it reaches a peak, and you have to go out and have sex.”

“And you don’t go down the street thinking you’d like to have sex with him, him, him and him?” I asked.

“No!” she said, abruptly. “Is that what men do?”

It seemed a good time to talk with her about what else Keliher had told me. He described the act he has never experienced as something “breathtakingly powerful” that “lights all of your body on fire.” He spoke of his lust as “this untamed beast.”

Fredell was incredulous: “Leo said that?”

He told me that he struggles constantly against “physical lustful temptation” — that he can be aroused just by a woman’s touch, by even a look at a woman or at a photo or sometimes by “thoughts that just come out of the blue — basically pornography in my head.” They come to him when he’s merely walking around campus, or even when he’s alone in the library — “like a fly buzzing around.”

To the matter of masturbation, he said, “This was really tough for me . . . because when you have a habit that’s so deeply ingrained, it’s hard to stop.”

Fredell, when asked about masturbation, just said, “Oh, God, no!”

Keliher quoted to me what an abstinence speaker said — that the real meaning of masculinity is “being able to deny yourself for the sake of the woman.” “To have that kind of self-control is really what it means to be a man,” Keliher had told me. When he finds himself aroused these days, he endures it and waits for it to pass. In this way, he said he has “matured out of that more infantile need for a woman into a recognition of self-sufficiency.” But some women, Keliher granted, continue to give him trouble.

One of these is a freshman — “a very gentle, caring soul,” he said, who “works with little kids and stuff.” Keliher can’t help thinking about her glossy hair and beautiful skin.

Another appears to be Janie Fredell. Keliher smiled and said he was “a little bit” attracted to her — “in very superficial ways,” he added. “It’s something we laugh about — if we dated.”

But Fredell did not laugh. “No!” she erupted, and with increasing volume, “No! No! No! I can’t emphasize enough that there is nothing between me and Leo! It’s just that we’re not compatible in that regard.”

PERHAPS NO ONE at Harvard represents the hookup culture better than Lena Chen, a student sex blogger, and few True Love Revolution events have drawn as much attention as Fredell’s debate with her last fall.

The women themselves saw their encounter as a meeting of two feminist positions, roughly encapsulated by a headline that appeared on another sex blog: “Harvard’s Jezebel Takes On Campus Virgin Mary.”

Chen and Fredell described the event to me later, when I met them separately for lunch. Chen was a small Asian woman in a miniskirt and stilettos who ate every crumb of everything, including a ginger cake with cream-cheese frosting and raspberry compote. Fredell, when the dessert menu came, paused at the prospect of a “chocolate explosion,” said, “I may as well — I mean, carpe diem, right?” And then reconsidered — she really wasn’t that hungry.

Chen’s viewpoint, as she explained it to me, was not complicated. “For me, being a strong woman means not being ashamed that I like to have sex,” she said. And “to say that I have to care about every person I have sex with is an unreasonable expectation. It feels good! It feels good!”

The story Fredell told me was rather more involved. I caught her at a very interesting moment, she said. In making life decisions, she said she always tried to answer the question, How can I be happy in the future? and two internships had lately revealed that she might not be happy as a lawyer. Fredell was now considering a career in psychology, perhaps specializing in early childhood development. The hours were better, she thought, and would leave more time for the work she also wanted to do — that of a wife and mother.

“Finding true love for me is the point of life,” she said, and she went on to explain that sex would only complicate the pursuit. She began talking about oxytocin, the hormone released at birth, in breast-feeding and also during sex. True Love Revolution gives it the utmost significance, claiming on its Web site that the hormone’s “powerful bonding” effect can be “a cause of joy and marital harmony” but that outside of marriage it can create “serious problems.” Released arbitrarily, it can blur “the distinction between infatuation and lasting love,” the Web site cautions, making rational mating decisions difficult. Fredell said oxytocin could also bond people who didn’t necessarily want to be bound, and “you can bond yourself to the wrong guy in the wrong situation.”

The True Love Revolution Web site warns that bonding hormones are released during any “sexual activity that culminates in an orgasm.” Fredell’s own relationships include a “physical component,” but she said it’s difficult to give “a set list of what’s O.K. and what’s not because there isn’t any.” She once told another reporter that oral sex, while “disgusting and disrespectful,” is not sex, but she now expresses clear approval only of kissing and hugging.

Her girlfriends are surprised that she can maintain a relationship without having sex, she said, but her boyfriend, at Georgetown, “knew from the get-go what he was getting into.” Fredell does not make sexual demands of him nor does he make demands of her. “So I’m free!” she said. “I’m free to experience the emotional and intellectual and spiritual intimacy of another person.” By closing herself off to sex, she claims to have found the humanity in her boyfriend and to have opened herself to an experience of love. “I’ll share this with you,” Fredell confided. “He said conversations with me were more enjoyable than sex would be with anyone else.” Every woman, she said, should have this “incredibly moving experience” of being appreciated for who she really is.

There’s a chance that Fredell and her boyfriend will marry, but of course, she says, “it’s not for certain.” If they don’t, and she never finds true love, she says she believes she could spend her life alone. Fredell saw too many women compromise themselves in order to have a relationship. And she also saw those women when their men walked away. The Web site warned what happens then to the sexually active; that oxytocin, in such cases, can cause “a palpable sense of loss, betrayed trust and unwelcome memories. This is information that you will rarely hear from sexual-health groups,” because, the Web site says, “there is no condom for the heart.”

Fredell asked me, “Why bond yourself so intensely when you’re not sure you’re going to spend the rest of your life with this person?” She loved her boyfriend, she said, but “there’s nothing unbalanced or irrational about our relationship.” After her own breakups, she has always bounced right back and knows that if her boyfriend ever pushed her to a decision, she could walk away.

THE DEBATE between Fredell and Chen was described on Ivygate, a blog about Ivy League news and gossip. The blogger dutifully recorded that both women looked their parts — Fredell “modestly dressed in jeans” and Chen wearing “a miniskirt that left little to the imagination.” More than a hundred students crowded into a meeting room of Winthrop House, an undergraduate residence, and Fredell said that most of them just wanted “a huge cat fight.”

She and Chen had agreed beforehand, however, to focus on finding “common ground.” What they found, as Chen told me, was that both of them were “out there publicly declaring” who they are. They admitted that they were both, in their own ways, advertising sex appeal. The Crimson pointed out that “both have come under attack for their extreme attitudes toward sex,” and Fredell said they were able to bond over being attacked.

By underscoring their similarities and demonstrating mutual respect for each other, Fredell said she hoped to suggest to the audience that perhaps True Love Revolution was a friendly force at Harvard — and also deserving of a little respect. The Crimson, though, declared the whole event “boring!” and without open disagreement, the debate seems to have been resolved almost as a beauty contest. Two women sitting side by side, posing a silent question to the audience: which of us do you find more appealing?

Chen knew, as she told me later, that “the culture reacts differently when women make the same decisions men do.” Her own decisions were public knowledge, because she revealed them on her blog. Chen’s perspective on society, and Fredell’s, was borne out in the aftermath, as people wrote in to Ivygate, calling Lena Chen a “slut,” a “whore,” a “total whore,” a “whore whore slut.” And then someone by the screen name of Sex v. Marriage wrote in to say that “most guys out there would rather end up with a girl like Janie.”

Fredell was happy that the event had drawn a large crowd. She told me later that she considered it one of the revolution’s finest moments.

Randall Patterson, who lives in Houston, has written for New York magazine, Mother Jones and The Times Magazine.

McCain Is Dangerous to Women

2008-03-10T11:04:00.003-04:00

With the recent post about Obama and Clinton I thought I would throw in this article that I read via feministing.com about John McCain.
McCain is just as dangerous to women as Bush is and we need to let all voters who care about women's issues this. Pay close attention to the answers to the direct questions.

Why McCain should worry women
By Robyn E. Blumner, Times Columnist
Published March 9, 2008

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Sen. John McCain wants people to know that he is a true conservative. The right flank of his party, particularly blowhards like Rush Limbaugh, want to paint McCain as a closet pinko because he only has an 82 percent rating with the American Conservative Union. But McCain insists that his conservative credentials speak for themselves.

Believe him. They do.

What scares me most about McCain, beyond our 100-year presence in Iraq, his itchy trigger finger relative to other foes, and his enthusiasm for tax cuts for the rich, is his fiercely conservative record on women's reproductive freedom. Here, there is no moderate McCain or reach-across-the-aisle McCain. On issues related to abortion and even birth control and sex education, McCain is as ideological as any Operation Rescue activist crawling around in front of an abortion clinic.

You want to know what's coming with a McCain presidency? How about the overturning of Roe vs. Wade. I'm not kidding. The latest case to reach the U.S. Supreme Court on abortion made it clear that the two newest justices, John Roberts and Samuel Alito, will vote for substantial incursions into abortion rights, if not their outright elimination. It turns out that Roe isn't a "super-duper" precedent after all. It's now hanging by the thread of 87-year-old Justice John Paul Stevens' continued vitality.

The next president will be the decider on whether women's emancipation from the slavery of the womb will continue in this country. We are on the cusp of losing the right to control our bodies and determine our family size. McCain promises as much.

Due to McCain's reputation as a maverick, many voters seem to attach more moderate abortion views to him. In Florida's primary, for example, 45 percent of those Republicans who said abortion should be legal voted for McCain. Whereas the prochoice Rudy Giuliani won over only 19 percent of the prochoice Republican vote.

But McCain's voting record is solidly antichoice. He said directly in South Carolina that Roe "should be overturned" and strongly reiterates that position on his campaign Web site. He told the American Conservative Union that one of the three most important goals that he wants to achieve as president is to promote "a nation of traditional values that protects the rights of the unborn."

In accordance with these views, McCain promises to "nominate strict constructionist judges," which is code for "will overturn Roe if given half a chance."

McCain also supports the global gag rule - probably the most backward foreign policy initiative since the importation of slaves. This is the policy that bars foreign family planning organizations from receiving U.S. funds if the group in any way advises clients on abortion as an option or advocates for legal abortion - even when using their own funds. We know that population control and family planning is the only way for Third World nations to advance, yet the United States and its antiabortion zealots have put a foot on the neck of the most effective groups.

An intelligent person might think that someone as rabidly antiabortion as McCain would be backing approaches to prevent unwanted pregnancies, thereby, ipso facto, fewer abortions. Well, think again.

McCain is an antagonist of sensible family planning and effective sex education. In 2005, he voted "no" on a $100-million allocation for preventive health care services targeted at reducing unintended pregnancies, particularly teen pregnancies. In 2006, he voted against funding for comprehensive, medically accurate sex education for teens.

McCain is much more comfortable with President Bush's wasteful and utterly ineffective abstinence-only approach.

The New York Times Web site reported the following exchange with a reporter in Iowa in March 2007:

Q: "What about grants for sex education in the United States? Should they include instructions about using contraceptives? Or should it be Bush's policy, which is just abstinence?"

McCain: (Long pause) "Ahhh. I think I support the president's policy."

Q: "So no contraception, no counseling on contraception. Just abstinence. Do you think contraceptives help stop the spread of HIV?"

McCain: (Long pause) "You've stumped me."

Do you really have to say such idiotic things to win the Republican nomination? It is an incontrovertible fact that the use of a condom will help interfere with HIV transmission. But I guess McCain sees it as a fact too liberal to acknowledge. Jeesh.

Now that the senator from Arizona has locked up the Republican nomination, he may be spending less time asserting his conservative bona fides and more time focusing on his occasional bipartisanship. This appeal will help to blur his record. Yet any voter who worries about government dictating to women what they can do with their bodies needs to understand the danger that McCain poses. Roe can't survive another president like Bush, and McCain is promising to be just like him.

2008-03-05T15:17:00.002-05:00

Females in Comedy: A Vanity Fair Article

2008-03-03T20:34:00.003-05:00

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/features/2008/04/funnygirls200804

This article is a really interesting look into the world of females in comedy.

Historic Election

2008-03-02T10:37:00.002-05:00

So I have often been asked in these last few months about this historic race in the democratic party and how I feel about things, because almost everyone who knows me knows I am a feminist. And I answer cautiously. It is amazing that there is a woman running for the highest seat in our government and that she is running against a black man. This race is an example of the strides of both how women and minorities are at the forefront of the political arena. I think with the eve of the real super Tuesday upon us I am truly looking at Hilary.

Would she be able to the job? Most certainly. She has the experience and the passion. Can Obama? I don't know, he does have the passion, but not the experience. However, comparing either of the candidates to the current sitting leader of our country I think a cocker spaniel could do a more effective job running our government. In regards to either candidates public presence, I think Hilary is an enigma. She has weathered some of the most ridiculous scandals our country has ever seen. I mean, for God's sake her husband was on trial (in the public arena and in the actual trial) for having a blow job in the Oval office. That just sounds like a subplot of a satirical political movie. However, the presence she has is over shadowed I believe, by the sexist media coverage of these primaries. The most coverage she received was when she cried in New Hampshire. CBS Sunday Morning took that and did a whole story about political candidates and when they cry and how it effects their campaigns. I think that because she is a woman this action was magnified. Then we look at Obama as a public speaker and he is so effective as an orator I believe this is why he has the following that he does (read: "Yes, we Can!).

I think that Hilary is going to loose and that makes me sad. Being for Obama seems to be the trendy thing to be. As a feminist I very much want a woman being in charge of this country, but not only for the fact that Hilary is a woman, but because she is a great leader. She did an amazing amount for women and families when Bill was president and how much do you want to bet that while he was all tied up with Monica she actually running the country making all the decision. I could see it.

Regardless of who wins the democratic seat I very much want someone in the White House who will try to make this country prosperously by supporting legislation that helps women and children, the environment and more peace globally.

Just a few thoughts.....

In the News!!!

2008-01-24T15:53:00.000-05:00

Here is me in the Norwalk Hour!

Status of Women panel hears complaints

Natalie Samuels works about 80 hours a week, and she also takes college classes. With two young sons, she scrapes by on roughly $45,000 per year, which is too much to qualify her for government aid.
"Basically, all I'm looking for here is some assistance," she told a panel of city and state lawmakers during a public hearing organized by the Permanent Commission on the Status of Women. The commission, formed in 1973 by state legislature, tackles issues of sex discrimination, and the hearing was held at Norwalk Community College.

For almost two hours, women from the area detailed their personal lives to the panel, asking for policy changes that would make it easier to survive in Fairfield County.

State Reps. Toni Boucher, R-143, and Christopher Perone, D-137, state Sen. Bob Duff, D-25, majority whip, and six Norwalk Common councilmen joined members of the commission on the panel.

It was one of three public hearings the commission plans to transcribe and send to state policymakers. A previous hearing was held in Enfield, and another one is scheduled at the University of Connecticut in February.

"We're responsible for being a liaison between community and government," said Teresa Younger, executive director of the commission, "and we wanted to gather their stories so we can communicate effectively with the government."
Marie Wendorff, who lives in Wilton, described her escape from an abusive relationship. She had to walk away from a career during the ordeal, and has since moved her three children to a one-bedroom apartment.

"So I was one of the haves with the white house and the picket fence, and I have become a have-not," Wendorff said. It took her a year and a half to get help from the government, and she told the panel the process should be easier.

"There are, no question, some heavy bureaucratic steps that really hamper a critical situation," Boucher said.

After two abusive marriages, Nadira Pankey found it more practical to leave her job and focus on a college education. She's a straight-A student at Norwalk Community College, and she supports her two children with food stamps and welfare checks.

"The only way I was able to survive, and the only way I'm sitting before you now, and why I'm able to give my kids food to eat, is because I quit my job and got on welfare," Pankey told the panel.

Two recent studies of income paint a bleak picture for women on the state and county level. One by the Fairfield County Community Foundation's Fund for Women and Girls found that for each dollar men earned, women earned 70 cents.

Regardless of whether they have children, a woman's income is twice as likely not to be as sufficient as a man's income, according to a study by the commission from last year. The study uses different standards for poverty than the federal government, and is more flexible than a flat salary line.

Even one of the commission's own subcommittee members, Kristen Pavlik, admitted she struggled to earn a living wage. She works full time at the Domestic Violence Crisis Center in Norwalk, part time at the Stamford Shelter for the Homeless and does some freelance clerical work. She loves her job, but it barely supports her.

"The negotiation between doing something I love and being financially secure is a difficult one," Pavlik said.

After the hearing, Perone said it's important to increase awareness of services that nonprofit organizations offer.

"I got the feeling in that room tonight that as successful as Connecticut has been in offering services, the message isn't getting out in a big way, so that's an important part of this," Perone said.

Staff writer Jared Newman may be reached at (203) 354-1045 or jnewman@thehour. com.

Tesitfy!!

2008-01-23T20:32:00.001-05:00

Oh my goodness, the coolest thing happened tonight I testified at a public hearing regarding economic security and women. I was so nervous I thought for sure that the microphone was going to pick up the thumping of my heart. Here is what I said:

Good Evening—
Tonight we are here to open a discussion about getting to a better tomorrow. I come to you as a young single professional working hard to make a better tomorrow everyday. I am a member of the Young Women’s Leadership Program and as a Prevention Educator for the Domestic Violence Crisis Center located here in Norwalk as well as in Stamford. I along with a dedicated group of educators we work everyday to redefine societal beliefs and attitudes regarding domestic violence. With the YWLP I work to help facilitate programs and legislation to encourage young women to empower themselves.

Professionally all the aspects of my work fulfill me because I am told daily how my work impacts the communities I work with. However, an issue that I challenges me on a monthly basis, like most of my collogues in the social service and non profit sector is how to maintain my independent financially stability now while building for a future for tomorrow. The negation between doing something I love and being able to be financially secure is a difficult one. Almost all the women of varying ages and martial status that I work with work their full time job and at least one part time job. I myself work 35 hours at DVCC as a prevention educator, 16 hours monthly at the Stamford shelter at DVCC, and I have another part time job doing sporadic clerical work. I have an undergraduate and a Master’s degree. There is a severe disconnect between how hard I work and the reality of my finances. I live in a one bedroom apartment in Norwalk, and I meet all of my regular bills such as groceries, electricity, and car payments. There is very little disposable income left. I realize that it is a choice to work in the non profit field, however, when a single woman with no children needs to work almost three jobs to support herself there is a larger issue.

I believe in systems changes, I believe in working with government to make systems more effective for everyone. I work everyday for social and systems changes. I challenge everyone here to examine what professions our society intrinsically value, ideologically and financially. Take a close look at those of us who are on the front lines working for a better tomorrow. How can we make housing costs more affordable for everyone? How can we take the burden of thousands of dollars in college loans for young professionals just starting off manageable while maintaining a their life and being able to look towards the future? I challenge everyone here to look at these questions and work for a new solution.

I got complemented by a senator on the work that I do. How awesome is that?? He also asked if I ever testified about these subjects before. I replied no and inside my head I was going "Holy crap a senator just complimented my public speaking." I also had a handful of other social service and non profit workers come up to me and thank me for being so eloquent on their behalf. It was crazy! I also had a councilperson from Norwalk hug me and say the work that I do is very very important. I am also going to be in the Norwalk paper tomorrow!!!

Gearing Up for Tonight

2008-01-23T11:43:00.000-05:00

Thanks Hendog

35th Anniversary of Roe v. Wade

2008-01-22T15:20:00.000-05:00

I know it has been forever since my last post, but I am "blogging for choice" and letting everyone know how important it is to remember today as the 35th anniversary of the decision of Roe v Wade. The right to choose is a right that should never be taken for granted.

Tomorrow I am testifying at a public hearing in Norwalk about economic security. I will post my testimony and comments about the hearing tomorrow evening.

Sending A Rapist to a Sexual Assault Crisis Center for Community Service

2007-11-06T16:03:00.000-05:00

I received this article from the Stamford Advocate in my daily elog for work. Alex Kelly is a rapist who fled the country. He is also a citizen of Darien, which is one of the wealthiest towns in the country.

To the editor:
As the executive director of the Sexual Assault Crisis & Education Center Inc., I take the safety and well-being of our clients very seriously. This is our highest priority. In reference to "Kelly may face obstacles in serving probation" (news story, Nov. 4), I reiterate that at no time would we welcome Alex Kelly or any other offender into our center.In fact, until we received the call from an Advocate reporter, we were unaware that the judge in the case had suggested that Mr. Kelly perform 200 hours of community service at a sexual assault crisis center. While we can understand the judge's intention, this simply would not be appropriate.Second, when asked about the release of Alex Kelly, my exact comment was that while many may have a difference of opinion on whether Kelly served a sufficient sentence, the reality is that he did the time required by law and now is to be readmitted to society.If one disagrees with his release, the disagreement lies with the legal system.
Cathy Malloy
Stamford
The writer is executive director of the Stamford-based Sexual Assault Crisis & Education Center.

The article that they are referencing is how Kelly may not be able to fulfill is requirements of probation. The article http://www.stamfordadvocate.com/news/local/scn-sa-kelly2nov04,0,5804037.story?coll=stam-news-local-headlines quotes Kathy Malloy.

There is a large disconnect between the legal system and understanding of victims' rights and feelings. Why would an agency that empowers survivors of sexual assault want a convicted rapist to volunteer there??? It would be like sending a convicted pedophile to work in a pre-school.

A lawyer and professor from UCONN commented, "He could learn an awful lot," Fernow said, "but I can't say I'm surprised the rape counselors have no interest." WHAT? He could learn alot? That is ridiculous. This man forced himself on two women as a teenager and then instead of taking responsibility for his actions his rich family sent him to Europe for 10 years. It is disgusting to me. He is 40 and this happened when he was a teenager. Privilege and wealth afforded this man to leave the country and not take responsibility for what he had viciously perpetrated. It is disgusting that the judge presiding over this case cannot see why women's advocacy groups would not want this sexual offender near women. This makes me angry....

Korea's Version of Shute Bucks

2007-11-06T12:18:00.000-05:00

From Rutgers News Oddly Enough Section
Best Mom Chosen as Face of Currency

SEOUL (Reuters) - South Korea's central bank on Monday chose the face of Korean motherhood as the first woman to be featured on its banknotes, but women's rights groups say the selection only reinforces sexist stereotypes.
Shin Saimdang, known for raising a famed Confucian scholar and having a deft hand in painting, will grace the new 50,000 won ($55) note when it debuts in early 2009, the Bank of Korea said.
Women's groups say her selection bolsters the idea that mothers should stay at home and devote their lives to their children's education.
Shin, whose nickname is "wise mother," gave birth to the 16th-century scholar Yi I, also known by his pen name Yulgok. She is celebrated for placing her son on the path to fame.
A paper on a government Web site describes Shin as "the best example of motherhood in Korean history," while the central bank said she was selected "to promote gender equality and women's participation in society."
Women's rights groups acknowledge Shin as an important figure but have been pushing for other female candidates, who have risen to positions of power and respect in a male-dominated society, to be placed on the new note.
"Although women nowadays are highly capable and educated, the idea of 'wise mother and good wife' holds them down," said Kwon Hee-jung, secretary general of the women's rights group
IF.
More than a dozen women's rights groups plan to protest against the bank's decision.
Yulgok's face is already on the 5,000 won note. Shin will appear on the second-highest valued note after the new 100,000 bill is also issued in 2009.

I think that it is awesome that a woman is going to be on currancy. I also understand why women's groups would find this offensive, especially because of the status of women in Korea.

Thoughts?

Hasbro's Rose Petal Cottage Commercial #2 - For Moms

2007-10-29T20:42:00.001-04:00

Name three things that are wrong with this commercial.

My three:

1. She asks the bear to "try her muffin".

2. Doing laundry equals using her imagination.

3. A place for "her dream to have room to grow" includes a washer, dryer, oven, and bassinet.

Where is her three piece suit, blackberry, and assistant?

Thanks Hendog.

Edit-- There is a new faster paced version of this commercial without the voice over.

Commonalities Rather Than Differences

2007-10-28T19:34:00.001-04:00

I have been reflecting this last week on what to make post on. I have been very excited to see what is out there for feminist blogs and the whole community. I have searching all sorts of neat sites that have to do with feminists who are lawyers, pop culture critics, and activists. While doing this I have been discussing my blog with anyone who will listen. One of those people is a dear friend of mine. He also writes a blog and he is an activist for the disability rights movement. He has recently published an article about selective abortions with a well known scholar Alice Dreger .

Now some history with this friend before I continue my story. We have been friends for like ten years or something and as long as I can remember we have disagreed about everything political. We would spend our vacations home from college discussing politics, current events, and anything else we could think of to get the other yelling. There was always a third member to our discussions who is saving the world working for the Peace Corps., but that is another entry. So, this friend and I have come to many understandings about lots of subjects, I think at least over the last few years as we have developed our academic points of view. When reading his article and talking to him I stated, "You know I disagree with somethings that you state in your article, and if I post on it I may write that." He replied brilliantly, "Kris, we have been doing that since like the seventh grade."

One of the main points of contention at various times over the last few years has been the issue of abortion. I am a liberal feminist and have marched for women's rights. My friend is an aspiring bioethicists and philosopher who has often held a different point of view than mine. Some of which are expressed in his article.

I read the article and I had my reactions, but then I had an amazing conversation with my friend about both of our life's passions. Over the past few months as he has taken on his academic endeavors and working with grassroots organizations. I have been working on the front lines with my cause. There is so much common ground between those working for women's rights and those working with disabilities rights.

So tonight instead of using this space to refute points I want to use it to say that there are lots of ways that these two movements are fighting for against a lot of the same oppressions. And I think that if we listen to each other we can work together to make the world a more tolerant place. I think that everyone needs to be heard, but I also think that more listening needs to happen. I listened and discovered things about someone I have known for most of my life and learned all sorts of new and amazing things.

Pseudo Feminism in Mainstream Magazines

2007-10-21T21:14:00.001-04:00

I read lots of magazines, because I love fashion and pop culture. Both fashion magazines and pop culture outlets are not feminist (unless you actively seek them out like magazines like Bust and Bitch etc.) Glamour magazine sometimes tries to be feminist and does stories on third world countries and the activist in them and they have the pictures of the villages and the poverty etc. I usually find them to be puff pieces that rarely truly have any substance to them.

I was reading the September Issue of Glamour and I came across a paragraph with a picture of a thong underneath and it read:

Newly Cool: The Va-Jay-Jay!
"Don't let the door hit you in the vagina on the way out." How hard did you laugh at that line in Knocked Up? Yes indeed, when it comes to humor, vaginas are in vogue. Thanks Oprah, whose "va-jay-jay" talk seems to have inspired joking on Grey's Anatomy and Scrubs. Then there was Alec Baldwin's pickup line in a Saturday Night Live sketch: "You know what part of a woman I like best, and I'm not kidding? The vagina." Seems we've all gotten so comfortable saying the V word we can't stop.

There are so many things that are wrong with this paragraph I am not sure where to begin. First, let's think about how hard people like Eve Ensler worked to get the word vagina to be able to muttered in mainstream America. (Ensler is also featured in this issue of Glamour but that is another post all together.) And that feminists have tried to empower themselves and gain ownership over their bodies only to have a magazine highlight the comedic value of a body part?

I think that the mainstream use of the word vagina is another subversive way that media (which is primarily patriarchal) is selling women a version of what they are supposed to be. It is not an empowering message like, "Own your body and sexuality!" , it is the message that your body (again) is going to be cut into pieces and used by men for what they would like.

The comfort level that comes with women like Oprah using child-like slang for her grown up woman parts shows that there is still that Madonna/Whore syndrome going on. It is fine for women to have sexual parts and to use them as long as they are deemed funny and nonthreatening, or child like so that the masculine sexual power can prevail.

Comments?

Popping the Blog Cherry

2007-10-21T21:05:00.000-04:00

I went to a Women's Studies Conference and heard a talk on "blogging" and how it is changing the way the legal system works and more pertinent to me a place where third wave feminists can communicate to each other. There is apparently alot of criticism from second wavers to this third wave medium as being "lazy activism." I starting reading some blogs and learning more about this online community and I have to say I am intrigued enough to put my voice out there.

I have been out of graduate school and in the work force for about a year. I have to say my brain has needed an outlet to be stimulated outside of academia and I think this blog may be just the spot. I don't know if anyone will even read this, but I feel like I have some thoughts on current events and things I see that I can share.

Also, one of my close friends who happens to be brilliant writes a blog very eloquently about his passions. We often have conversations about the intersections of our two movements. So here I go....